How More Dads Are Finally Getting Rich
There is the expectation that as the father of the house, you go out into the world and you earn the dough. You do whatever it takes to get ahead, build a career and become successful. You make sacrifices of time and energy and you put money first because the more money you make, the better you are at taking care of your family. Right?
Today’s dads are beginning to disagree. They are questioning the expectation that they should have to sacrifice so much time away from their family. They are realizing that sometimes, a sticky fingered high-five from your 3-year old feels better than another five grand in the bank.
What the Reports Say
According to the 2014 statistics from the U.S. Department of Labor, nearly 50 percent of all married-couple families have both a working mom and dad. While it’s no news to any of us that more moms today work as compared to the 1960s, the 2015 U.S. economic report from the President reveals that more dads are participating in child care and household tasks. Almost three times more. Dads are spending less time at their paid jobs and more time with family, reading to their kids, even changing diapers, but what’s especially noteworthy is how they feel about it.
Dads are Getting It – Work Life Balance
Working gives us the satisfaction of earning money and using our giftings and talents to make a difference in the world, but how do you balance work life with family life? We’ve all heard the stories about the dad that works too much and doesn’t have time for his kids, the dad who goes out to the bar after work, and the dad who doesn’t come home. But what about the dad who wants to be involved in his kids’ lives, who loves coming home, the dad who gets it?
The number of full-time employed fathers who report dissatisfaction with the work-family balance has nearly doubled since 1977. There’s been a lot of buzz in the work place about changing policy to accommodate these family issues, but why wait. You can do a lot to reclaim your dad benefits now by insisting on balance.
Take Matters in Your Own Hands
My advice to working fathers struggling to find time to invest in family is the same as the advice I give when talking about finances and the struggles to save: Pay Yourself First.
Now that doesn’t mean go out and spend money on yourself. It means give yourself what you need first, off the top, and then go backwards from there. Instead of giving your family and the people you care about most the time that you have left over after work, set aside their hours first. Then figure the rest of your schedule from there.
Not everybody’s work place is willing to accommodate day-time school events such as plays or concerts, and things will come up at that have to take priority, but that’s okay. Work with what you have. It’s really more of a mindset thing. Instead of putting your job first and fitting family around it, you put your family first and fit work around them.
Is the Price Worth the Cost?
When you consider the cost of an investment, you look at more than just the price in terms of dollars and cents; you look at it in terms of what it will give back, or cost you, in the long run. Look at your relationship investments the same way.
- What does an investment of ten minutes throwing the football around with your son give back to you?
- What do those two hours working late really cost your family?
Ask yourself, is the price I pay now worth the cost later? Then weigh that against your other options.
Relationships are like savings accounts: they grow over time when nurtured regularly. Even if the investments are small. In fact, savers who regularly deposit small amounts do better in the long run than those who wait until they are making more money to save. The same thing is true of your relationships, and the interest compounds. A daily ten minute conversation over Cheerios or a slow walk around the block will do more in a year to deepen your relationships than an annual trip somewhere fancy.
Kids grow up fast. You’ll never get back the time you miss out on. So use what time you have now.
Bureau of Labor Statistics, Employment Characteristics of Families 2014, http://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/famee.pdf
2015 Economic report of the President, The Economics of Family-friendly Workplace Policies,